Loving Those Without Their “Real” Dad in Their Lives
When asked to talk about our dad we may not all have a fully happy story with no hurt involved. That’s ok. Know someone with a story like that? Kelli richly shares how we can love those people well.
He is a father to the fatherless; He gives justice to the widows, for He is holy. Psalm 68:5
It is a common thing these days for a dad not to be “present” in a child’s life. Whether it is because of death, neglect or divorce … there are kids missing an important part of their family. We, as friends, can step in and help in so many simple ways.
1. Be willing to ask and listen. Don’t avoid the fact that dad isn’t in their life right this moment. They do have a dad and he is a part of their story, good or bad. As you get to know this child, ask them to tell you about their dad. Don’t be afraid to hear what they have to say. It is a part of them they will get to share with you. As they share, they will begin to trust and allow themselves to be known more.
2. Be willing to fill a void here and there. No one can ever fill the void of dad completely. But, we can help in the way of mentorship and availability. If the dad in your home is taking the kids out or just playing around the house … invite them to jump in. When you have family night, include them. Share your dad. What a great thing to share!
3. Be ready to introduce them to the best Father EVER. There is no better father than God who gave us Jesus and the Holy Spirit. While He doesn’t have “skin on” … He is with us every step of the way and loves bigger than any dad on earth. Introduce Jesus to those with an absent Dad.
Often, I feel guilty for what I have … until I realize I can be glad for what I can share!
Who do you know who doesn’t have a dad present in their life? Pray for them. Listen to their story. Invite them to enjoy your family with you. You have a lot to share … get ready to do it!